tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13493347.post8860813994422091170..comments2023-05-13T07:18:11.347-05:00Comments on Jane says...: understandingJanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18444821722273498946noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13493347.post-77500005410825123042008-06-16T22:47:00.000-05:002008-06-16T22:47:00.000-05:00Hey captain foot in mouth here. My husband said th...Hey captain foot in mouth here. My husband said the same thing when I was once where you are now which is the bottom of the sess pit of hell which is depression.<BR/><BR/>I literally just asked him (like 3 minutes ago) if he ever understood it. He said no he never would. I asked what he meant. He said "I am helpless to pull you from this depression thing. Its like an enemy I can't see sucking my love away. You are my love and I am helpless....how can I understand how my love isn't enough?." <BR/><BR/>You see you don't need him to 'understand" you. That's you avoiding the issue. All this crappy depression is about YOU understanding YOU. This is YOUR issue. You need him to be around while YOU go through this. Baby don't give reason to run. Tell him the truth "I don't understand this fucking thing either so if I don't how can I expect you to? Get on his level. Help him. Give him verbs etc he needs a map to guide him while your on this journey.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13493347.post-79061230332877285442008-06-16T13:48:00.000-05:002008-06-16T13:48:00.000-05:00I'm sorry -- you're absolutely right. I like Nino...I'm sorry -- you're absolutely right. I like Nino's point about knowing where you stand, though.<BR/><BR/>And who knows, maybe admitting he doesn't get it is a first step toward the empathy you need from him.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02887928096510492352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13493347.post-6082735042336591852008-06-16T07:11:00.000-05:002008-06-16T07:11:00.000-05:00Your point is very valid. I agree with you 100%. T...Your point is very valid. I agree with you 100%. There's understanding and/or the lack thereof and then there's blame. Sounds like he's blaming you for something that is not at all your fault. There are ways to deal on both sides with love & support and maturity. I guess now you know where you stand with him where the depression is concerned. (My sister went through the same thing)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com